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What Should Christians Do About Gay Marriage?

As Christians and also Americans it should be no shock to us that our supreme court, by a slim majority, has legalized homosexual marriage. As a country we are concerned first with the rights of man. We believe that government exists to up hold the human rights of life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. I am abundantly thankful for this objective of our government. But it misses a key role of government that I believe comes first. The Government is first called to uphold truth and justice. (Romans 13:1-7) And justice and truth can only be clearly defined by God, who is without sin.

Rainbow ApprovedWe learn from the book of Romans that government is instituted by God, no government exists without His allowing. As Christians we are called to submit to God. His sovereignty over government demands us to submit to the authority of government. Paul writes that if we do not do so we are resisting the authority of God. There are times when government clearly resists the will of God, and we have biblical description of how the apostles (Acts 4) and Daniel (Daniel 6) resisted authority, and honored God. These examples have become ever more important to us as our laws change.

But now as Christians I think we need to reflect on the realities of what has happened in our country.

We should not be shocked!

This is not the first failure of society, or the worst society has ever been. ( Just a few examples: Genesis 6:5, Judges 17:6, Ezekiel 23, 1 Corinthians 6:9-11,Titus 1:12-13) Humans are fallen, corrupted by sin and confused about justice because of sin. This is true even in your own life.

The sin of the world, and the remnants of sin in your heart, still makes it difficult for you to judge what is right and wrong. (Thank God for his Word, through which He continues to purify our hearts and minds) We then should not be shocked by the trials before us, nor should we see them as unnecessary, but rather as opportunity to shine in a dark world. (1 Peter 1:6-7, 1 Peter 4:12)

We should be appalled by sin and empathetic toward sinners

When Jesus saw a woman guilty before God and man, who was brought to him by earthly authorities to judge, he withheld his wrath. He told the men instead “Let him who is without sin among you be the first to throw a stone at her.” Jesus then recognized her sin, he makes that clear by telling her, “go and sin no more.” But he also in kindness shows mercy, and the mercy of God is given to draw sinners to repentance. (Romans 2:4)

We recognize sin when we see it. Not just because we have been in many ways freed from it, but it is sadly familiar to us. Our hearts should be that of guilty sinners forgiven, and pleading with others to see the kindness of the true judge. Because you and I were just like them blind, and lost in sin before “you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.” (1 Corinthians 6:9-11) We are not so unfamiliar with the blinding, selfish pride of sin, which leads us still to fight for our own ways; even after we know his ways are far better. That is why before that great statement of our salvation in 1 Corinthians 6:11, Paul lists acts of sin (including homosexuality, but not exclusively) and says before the statement quoted above, “And such were some of you.” We should be appalled by our own sin, and empathetic for the sin of others.

We should be crying out for repentance

You are not the measure of justice, but the servant of the only true and just judge. As his servant you need to live under the command of 2 Timothy 2:24–26. “The Lord’s servant must not be quarrelsome but kind to everyone, able to teach, patiently enduring evil, correcting his opponents with gentleness. God may perhaps grant them repentance leading to a knowledge of the truth, and they may come to their senses and escape from the snare of the devil, after being captured by him to do his will.”

God has given you a voice, to speak reason, when there is opposition to his will. You are an ambassador of truth, because you were previously a citizen of lies, trapped in sin. You did not arrive, you were saved, at the sacrifice of another, far greater than yourself. (2 Corinthians 5:17-21) We long for justice, and we assume we know how it should be carried out. But aren’t you thankful that God brought the offering of grace, before he brings justice?

We could learn much from Paul in Acts 17 as he sees the sin of a city. He is provoked by that sin. (Acts 17:6) But instead of responding in anger, responds by relating, and sharing the truth. “The times of ignorance God overlooked, but now he commands all people everywhere to repent, because he has fixed a day on which he will judge the world in righteousness by a man whom he has appointed; and of this he has given assurance to all by raising him from the dead.” (Acts 17:30-31)

We should study, that we might not be deceived

I recently read a book by a young man named Matthew Vines. The book is increasing in popularity and he is being upheld as unlocking the confusion of homosexuality and Christianity. Mankind will always find a way to justify their sin, even if it means twisting scripture. (Many of us have been guilty of the same) We are warned that there will come those who twist the Word of God, to their own destruction. (2 Peter 3:16)

You could agree with what I am saying, and assume I am right. Or you could assume I am wrong. In either case, have you read the scripture I referenced? If you just take my word (or anyone else’s words) as truth, you will be easily deceived, and define the truth by your own desires and assumptions. Many will do this with Vine’s book and other books and become convinced that the “Bible says” or doesn’t say something. But seek to see what the bible says, not so you can win arguments, but so that the truth of Christ’s words can be known to you, and to others. Don’t just see a reference or hear a quote and assume it isn’t twisted or taken out of context.

We should live as examples of true liberty

The truth is clear in the book of Romans that as men reject the authority of God they will worship idols, themselves, and sexual perversion, giving into all kinds of sin. (Romans 1:18-31) Many of our youth are confused because they have received more instruction (and have seen examples from our lives) that people should live for their desires and their impulses, rather than submit their desires to the creator of all things. We know that true freedom, or true liberty is found in Christ. But we can be deceived as we live in freedom. That is why Peter wrote “Live as people who are free, not using your freedom as a cover-up for evil, but living as servants of God.” (1 Peter 2:16) If we live lives deceived that our life, liberty and happiness are of most importance, we fail to remember that happiness only comes through submission to God. By justifying our sinful desires in “liberty” we tell our children and others that liberty is most important.

What do our children believe? What we teach them; life is about health and wealth, happiness is found in getting more, liberty means if you assume it doesn’t hurt anyone else; than you should have right to it, I can’t help how I feel, you can’t choose who you love, or don’t love anymore, you can do it, you’re the best, no one else can tell you what to do, self-esteem is most important, these are all American Doctrines, not Christian. As we embrace them they teach our children lies, often because we believe the lies rather than the truth. Our example matters to our children and our neighbors. (1 Peter 2:11-12) As long as we live as slaves to our desires, others will see freedom and liberty as opposed to submission to authority.

We should appeal to authority

We have the right to vote, to speak and to pray. Men have died to give you all these rights. But one man rose from the dead and proved his authority, and gave you access to the real authority. (Hebrews 4:14-16, Acts 17:30-31) While we vote and speak we need to realize that earthly power isn’t the real authority. The supreme court, our legislators, our president and governors, are only middle management. To be honored and appealed to because they are given authority by God. But their authority is only given by His power, not held by theirs. So as we use the means of the government God allows us, in a God honoring way, we need to appeal to the real authority. Pray because he is sovereign over all things.

God is sovereign over the entire universe: Ps 103:19; Rom 8:28; Eph 1:11
God is sovereign over all of nature: Ps 135:6-7; Mt 5:45; 6:25-30
God is sovereign over angels & satan: Ps 103:20-21; Job 1:12
God is sovereign over nations and government: Ps 47:7-9; Dan 2:20-21; 4:34-35
God is sovereign over human beings: 1 Sam 2:6-7; Gal 1:15-16
God is sovereign over animals: Ps 104:21-30; 1 Ki 17:4-6
God is sovereign over “accidents”: Pr 16:33; Jn 1:7; Mt 10:29
God is sovereign over free acts of men: Ex 3:21; 12:25-36; Ez 7:27
God is sovereign over sinful acts of men and Satan: 2 Sam

Author: Jake Dietrich

Jacob is a graduate of FBC's Training Center and has served as a faithful adult ministry leader for some years at Faith Bible Church. In the Fall of 2014, Jake will be the lead preacher at FBC's first church plant, located in Menifee, CA.


  1. What Should Christians Do About Gay Marriage?

    Absolutely Nothing, In fact you should just pray for their happiness and well-being as they are perfectly beautiful people and they have just as much a right to happiness as you and I. I hope you will come to learn this one day.

  2. You should stop worrying about their life because you obviously care waaaaaaay too much about this it is just people marrying other people who they love so please get a life.

  3. You are over thinking it. Please just stop take breath and move on with your life. (If you have one outside of the church you obviously live in).

  4. Wow, maybe if you put this much effort into your APUSH class, I might have learned something besides the fact that you do not believe in Feminism. I wish you the best in your future endeavors.

  5. 1. Separation of church and state
    2. The government has to craft laws that apply to everyone (shocker, not just christians)
    3. If you are going to argue something that applies to all people, including those of different faiths, you might want to try sourcing something besides the bible.
    4. (suggestion) start reading some SCIENTIFIC studies of homosexuality, not one written by an idiot.

    • Thanks for taking the time to read the blog Josh.
      1. I agree with separation of church and state, I think most Christians do. Roger Williams an early puritan actually was one of the first British Colonists to push for the idea. It is meant to protect the church from state control. It’s also not in the constitution it’s just a popular idea historically.

      2. I again agree, not sure where I said any different, I think you might be making assumptions on my ideas.

      3. Sorry to be unclear about the point of the blog, or get off the point at times? This was written to help and encourage Christians not, as an argument against Homosexuality. That is a pretty settled question for most Christians.

      4. The bible was written by idiots? or am I reading scientific studies by idiots? Soft or social sciences might come to theoretical conclusions on the mental/emotional idea of homosexuality. But I think simple biology will always stand as pretty strong evidence against it.

  6. As a fellow Christian, this article horrifies me. What a way to so spitefully and with such prejudice reduce an entire group of people to a problem to be dealt with. These people, who have already faced so much discrimination, who commit suicide because of hateful words like this and even more hateful actions justified by words like these. Is this the way that Jesus would have conducted himself? Is this the way that Jesus would have wanted you to speak of marginalized people? Jesus, the son of God, who spread nothing but good will towards those who were beaten down and trodden upon, who dined with sinners and validated their existence, who died for not only our sins but also as a statement against the horrors of those who oppress the less powerful!

    What have you done in this article but prove your hatred? As an educator you hold a responsibility to your students to create a safe space for them and how can you do that when you preach such injurious words? You are the reason young people of today feel unaccepted and hopeless. It is people like you and words like these that cause wounds and rifts and problems and suicide. You and your words are to blame.

    If you do not like people receiving rights in a government SEPARATE from the church, then perhaps you should not live in a country like this, a country founded on breaking free from oppression.

    You cannot regard human beings as valid as you or I as a problem to be avoided and dealt with. You can only accept and love. Homosexuality is no more a sin than the consumption of shellfish or the weaving of mixed fibers (the weaving of mixed fibers being the only thing on that list that does not occur naturally!). Leviticus was rendered obsolete by Jesus’s death on the cross, and a minister of all people should know this! Would you spout these words to your own children, should they trust you with the information that they were LGBT? Would you condemn them to hell? Would you make them feel worthless and filthy in the eyes of God? Or would you accept them and love them as any good parent and human being would?

    God does not preside over this government. God presides over those who choose to believe in Him. Our religion is a choice. It is against our faith to spread hate and malice and it is also against the wishes of Jesus. By calling this governmental choice a failure, by calling these people sinners, and by preaching such bigoted speech, you have sinned. You do not love your neighbors, you do not accept, instead you demean and dehumanize people just like you.

    You give fellow Christians a bad name with hate speech like this, you alienate your students, and you horribly twist the words of God and His son.

    • I completely understand that many disagree with my opinions Arthur. I don’t believe we know eachother, so I don’t know you other than the words you wrote in response. From them I think it is clear that we agree that Christ loves sinners.

      Other than than that I can only assume we disagree on many points of what the Christian faith is. I think It is unfair for me to make assumptions on what you mean by the accusations of my care for people, my students, my church and my children. I dont think it would be fruitful to seek to defend on myself to you on those points. All we know of eachother are a few written words.

      As this is a public blog If you think I twisted scripture I would want to communicate further. I am more than happy to clarify or recant if I have misrepresented God’s word. I did not write this blog to attack homosexuals. I wrote it to encourage Christians (specifically those I know at Faith Bible, but publicly that we might encourage other Christians also) that might be tempted to forget God’s care for them and for homosexuals.

  7. I think it is an excellent article on the subject. It appears that the word got out for people to come and bash it. This is the problem many Christians are facing now. Nothing less than abandoning our Biblically based beliefs will do.
    I don’t think the majority of Christians see this as some exceptional sin, worse than many others, but because the culture has put it front and center, with a lot of provocation, we have had to respond. By doing so, we are then labeled “haters”. We need to learn how to address this, with the full knowledge that we are often being purposely provoked, in a loving way, while not feeling we have to abandon our faith.